15 Minute Fixes: How To Get Better At Forgiving Others
When it comes to forgiveness, every leader of light needs to have a powerful exercise that can be employed at a moment’s notice to help those in your charge.
After all, if you can’t help your teammates to become better at forgiving one another, you, your team, and your organization are never going to reach your full-potential.
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” – Lewis B. Smedes
Here’s a one of the best exercises we’ve found that can be put into practice immediately. It comes to us from the world’s leading expert on forgiveness, Dr. Robert Enright, and he outlines the process in the following paragraphs.
Dr. Enright’s Practical Guide to Practicing Forgiveness
Step #1:
Make a list of as many people as you can remember who have hurt you, all the way from your childhood to now.
Step #2:
List who the person is, what occurred that was unjust, and your degree of hurt on a 1-to-10 scale.
Step #3:
Then order all of these people from the least hurtful (but still a challenge for you now) to the most hurtful.
Step #4:
Start with the one person who hurt you the least and go through the forgiveness process with that person. When you think you have accomplished forgiving this one person, and it might take weeks, then go to the next person on the list.
Step #5:
Continue until you reach the person who wounded you the most. You then may be ready to forgive this person because you have engaged in practice, practice, practice in forgiving and so your forgiveness fitness likely has increased.
To help you get started, we’ve created a quick PDF template that you can download right now. Simply touch on this link to access this resource.
It’s fast. It’s easy. It’s effective.
Leading With Light
Lewis Smedes said, “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” This exercise will get you moving immediately. Don’t put it off. Download the exercise now. A year from now, you will wish you had started today.
See light. Be light. Spread light.
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